Korean Netizens' Comments About RM's Opinion On Marriage and Childbirth

[Theqoo]BTS RM's Candid Remarks About Marriage and Childbirth

 

 

 

 

  

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— 진수 (@heunghacnayo) October 5, 2025

 

 

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— ㅇㄱ (@r23mw) October 5, 2025

 

 

 

 

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🐨 When it comes to marriage, there's a lot of pressure and reality involved. Especially for women—with issue like children and other things—society and the media seem to constantly put pressure on them. It feels like they're pressuring us too. But I just wish everyone could live according to their own way. I don't think there's a single right answer

 

In my opinion, if you can't endure being alone, then even if you get married, will that really solving anything? Because even after getting married, there might be times when you want to be alone again—people are fickle like that. So I think that someone who can be fine on their own can also be fine when they're with someone, and vice versa.

 

If you decide to get married just because you feel lonely and want to escape that loneliness, that's a bit... I don't know. And as for having kids, I'm not sure about that either. I already find it hard enough to take care of myself, let alone raise another life. You can't rally control a child however you want, right? Thinking back to how much trouble I gave my parents when I was young—if a kid like me cam out of me? Oh boy~~ just imagining it, I'd probably find them so frustating. Of course, they could also be lovable... but still, there's no right answer to any of this.

 

Those who are married can only speak from a married person's perspective, and those who are unmarried can only speak from an unmarried person's perspective, because they don't truly know each other's situations. So I think we should take the stories and cases of the people around us just as that their own experiences. In a way, for those of us born in the '90s, I think we're the first generation in Korea to see marriage as an option rather than a must. So I believe everyone should just follow their own choices.

 

I guess i talked too deeply about marriage (laughs). But well, it's a topic worth discussing, right? After all, what kind of "content" do we really have in our lives? Hobbies, travel—none of those things have a right answer either. But I do think it's important to build both physical and mental nourishment. Exercise and reading can bring a lot of good things to a person.

 

I don't think there's anything in the world that's absolutely good and that everyone must do. But if there's anything that's close to being 100% good, it would be reading and exercising—because those two never lie.

 

So yeah... Getting married doesn't mean your loneliness will completely disappear.

I don't think it will!

 

 

Comments:

 

1. There were probably quite a lot of people who went along with that era of bashing women and calling them "kimchi women"... If I look back, I was just a clueless teenager back then who didn't know any better and couldn't think clearly. Now that he's become such a better and more influential person, saying things like that is actually a good thing.

 

2. I used to just think he was the most exemplary among idol group leaders, but now I see that it's not just about being a leader, it's rare even among influential people to find someone who thinks as deeply as he does. That's why I support him as an artist. I really think BTS, and especially their leader, deserve so much praise for continuing to show such positive influence. I hope many people can learn from him. Namjoon is amazing.

 

3. RM is always so amazing. I'll always be cheering for him. He's my rock to lean on. RM has always been someone who genuinely tries to learn and lives diligently and consistently. He always thinks a lot about his fans, and he's such a kind, warm, and big-hearted person. I'm really looking forward to everything he'll do in the future.

 

4. The title almost gave me a heart attack lol. I only read up to "BTS RM marriage" and my brain literally froze 😂. But he's right. Live your own way. Life's a damn my way thing. Let's just live however we want!

 

5. Hmm, but I wonder how many people actually get married just because they're lonely. It feels like social pressure--like "everyone else is getting married," or "it's something you have to do before it's too late," kind of like graduation or getting a job--is a much longer stronger reason. If it's really just about loneliness, that usually only goes as dar as dating, not marriage.

 

6. After that big controverys over the lyrics, it seems like he started reading books about women's issues and even sought advice from professors in related fields. I'm really glad his mindset has become more grounded and mature. Even if some people say it's just for show, considering the level of gender sensitivity among men his age these days, the fact that he can even speak like that is almost a miracle. 

 

7. Right... and he's acually thought deeply about what it means to raise a child. People who take marriage lightly usually assume that they won't be the ones raising a kid--they just take it for granted that the woman will, or that her parents or his parents will do it instead. They just want the easy way out, honestly.

 

8. That's right. Marriage and childbirth aren't a must!!! I've done both, but I hope my daughter doesn't do either unless she truly wants to. I chose both because/wanted to, and since it was my own decision, I'm really satisfied and happy with my life. But I don't want anymore--because of society, family or anyone else--to be pushed into thinking that marriage, pregnancy, childbirth, or childcare are things they have to do just because "that's how it's supposed to be." Not any woman.

 

9. That's so true. Does getting married mean you won't be lonely? Sometimes it makes you even lonelier. And having kids doesn't mean you won't feel lonely either--sometimes it gets worse.

 

10. Exactly. Marriage isn't a requirement anymore. It's an option. If you want to do it, go ahead; if you don't, that's fine too.

 

11. Every time RM says things like this, I feel like I should start reading books. I only think about it, though--I should start doing it now.

 

12. What he said about marriage and childbirth is true, and what he said about exercising and reading being good for you is also absolutely right. I've been consistently working out and reading since the beginning of this year, and it's been really good for may mental health.

 

13. I never thought I'd hear a man my age acknowledge how heavy the pressure around pregnancy and childbirth is--but he did. And he's also right that our generation sees marriage as an option, not a necessity. There's not a single sentence I couldn't relate to from start to finish. He's so toughtful.

 

14. Every single word he said was true. It's especially admirable how he directly pointed out how society pressures women when it come to pregnancy, childbirth, and childcare. People always talk about "common sense" or "moderin thinking," but in reality, it's rare tp meet someone who actually thinks that way and has the courage to say it out loud.

 

15. I think RM played a huge role in bringing BTS to where they are today. He's such a thoughtful person with so much depth, and he knows how to channel all that in a positive way--expressing it beautifully and sharing it with others.

 

Even during the times when he was struggling and full of worries, he never hid it. He turned those worries into lyrics and writings, and always showed his personal growth in real time.

 

In the early days after debut, he openly showed his struggles about his identity and his desire to be recognized, and he kept working hard.

 

When there was controversy over misogynistic lyrics, he took it all in, reflected on himself, met with feminist professors, studied feminism, and genuinely worked to move forward. I still remember how calmly he talked about that in a livestream.

 

Then one day he started exercising, became healthier physically, grew more interested in art, and studied it deeply--showing how he fulfills his intellectual curiosity in a healthy way.

 

He's the kind of person who makes you feel that if you like someone like him, you'll have something strong to lean on when life gets hard.

 

16. So what, he made some mistakes in the past, so he's supposed to stay that way forever? If someone sincerely apologizes, reflects, and shows growth through their actions, we should be able to acknowledge that too. RM really is a true leader... We're lucky that he's the one leading them.

 

17. Ah, right. If two lonely people are together, does that mean they won't be lonely anymore? In the end, the other person is still someone else--not a part of me. The only person who can truly understand everything from my perspective is myself.

 

18. Reading and exercising are really things you should do just to live well... Looking at the people around me, those who are stable on their own live well even without getting married, while those who are unstable alone thend to do better when they're married. I guess marriage really is an option.

 

19. He's so admirable. It doesn't feel like he's just sugarcoating the usual "woman should sacrifice for the country" kind of talk--it genuinely feels like he's thinking about women and respecting them.

 

20. What's really fascinating is that whenever his posts make it to the hot topics or when I watch videos of him speaking like this, his words are always so easy to read and easy to listen to. I really admire that. It's amazing how naturally he does it.

 

21. He's absolutely right. Marriage is truly an option now--that's the honest truth. Raising children requires real sacrifice, and the idea that marriage will make your loneliness disappear is just an illusion.

 

22. Totally agree. Society puts all kinds of subtle pressure on women when it comes to marriage and childbirth. And for a man in his 20s (RM's still in his 20s, right?) to actually recognize that and say it loud... He's truly one of a kind.

 

23. So true. I'm married, but getting married doesn't make loneliness go away. Humans are inherently lonely beings. If you're choosing marriage just because of that, I'm against it. If you're fine being alone, then just keep living that way.

 

24. I've never once regretted liking RM... I love how he keeps growing and how thoughtful he isㅠ

 

25. Honestly, even if he's had controversies, I don't think there's anyone who's studied and grown as much as he has. The people who criticize him seem like the kind who'll stay stuck in the past no matter how much he evolves.

 

26.  But seriously, these are thoughts I've always had, so hearing them come out of my idol's mouth was amazing--I actually clapped ㅠㅠ And as always, today's live was so, so good ㅠㅠ Not just this part, but the whole thing ㅠㅠ

 

27. It's refreshing how he said that successful young men born in the '90s now have the opinion to choose marriage... The way he put it was so positive--and I also love that he mentioned women first.

 

28. I'm not really interested in BTS and don't know much about them, but he speaks so well... What he said is true, and he expresses it so eloquently.

 

29. He really seems to show that people grow through their mistakes. As Namjoon matures with age, he's becoming such an admirable person, not just as an artist but as a human being.

 

30. You can really feel the depth of his thoughts in every world he says... You couldn't say things like that unless you truly understood how marriage as an institution isn't a rational choice for many women, and how much pressure society still puts on them despite that. 

 

 

 Source: Theqoo